"Relationship 27" is about dealing with
feelings and decisions about: love, hate, trust, and discrimination. My
articles are experiences I went through and that made me change values or
switch from one culture to another. I am in between two cultures (Salvadorian
and American) in a constant struggle to please my family, others, and myself. I
believe most of you will relate to my stories and some of you will wonder how
this can be. I don’t lament my experiences; I embrace them. I learn from them
and take something positive with me. My past made me who I am today, no matter
how painful it might have seemed.
My hope is that you can relate to my experiences,
and learn from reading my blog.
Its been awhile since I post it anything on my blog. I am sorry about that, I been very busy with work. But I am ready to start, so here I go.
ReplyDeleteIt’s been two weeks since I started my new job. Everything is great and I am learning to get used to the rhythm and duties I need to fulfill. I am a little concern about one of my coworkers. She is leaving in two weeks. Isn't odd I got hired and she decided to leave. I thought there was something bothering her. It all started on Monday my first day of my new job. This story is called : The Mask
ReplyDeleteShe came to the office with a black eye and everyone seemed too ignored so I thought. She tried to cover it with makeup, but it was still visible. She probably went to the bathroom several times because of her eye. As the new girl at work, I said hi to everyone and try to talk to everyone a little bit. But she was not really welcoming. I did not take it personally. But it did intrigue me. I wanted to know who she was. And where she was from? Since she speak Spanish just like me. That was the whole reason why they hired me. They needed someone bilingual. I am very happy at my job. There are a lot of nice people and they want to help me do my job right. I finally started to talk to her three days ago. I asked my trainer to assign me to her so I will learn her ways and been able to feel more confident about doing my job. She was very kind and explained to me everything. She wanted me to be a sponge, and absorb everything she knew about the job. She had been working for the company for the last three years and felt that she could trust me enough to let me in all her tactics to do a good job. I immediately admire her dedication and how responsible she portrayed to be at work. She sort of commented to me that she only slept for four hours. I also said that I have slept for five hours and asked if she was also talking classes at night or perhaps online courses. She looked down and said: “m… yeah”. Immediately after that she changed the topic. I didn’t want to ask anything personal anymore. She seemed trouble by it. She was not about to tell me her whole life or tell me what happen to her that Monday or the day before on her eye.
She said she was changing jobs in two weeks. It was a shock for everyone that worked with her. Even for me that I was just started to get to know her. I wish she could stay and teach me everything she knows but not all at one. Because she talks at everything she knows at once. I got to a point that not only did I need it my coffee break but also I got overwhelmed with information. She can do that in another way and I did talk to her about that. The following I wanted to continue working with her. But my trainer disagreed with me because she needed to keep an eye on me to see if I was doing a good job. I felt a little sad but I didn’t argue because I do need to continue my training. I need to learn everyone’s way to be able to develop my own way. I didn’t talk to her that much that day; although, she did approach me at lunch time with a tip that I could use when I do the calls. She was very nice. She said she doesn’t want the boss to tell me that I am doing wrong, so she taught me what not to do in different situations.
I hope everything goes well for her in her new job. This is going to be her last week with us. I hope to work with her one more time. She is a great person and deserves to be treated with respect. I hope she knows that and I also hope that whatever situations she is going through, she remembers that she has people that care for her, like her coworkers.
Broaching the topic of abuse is difficult for even close friends or family members. I think you did the best you could; you did not really know her well enough to ask her directly. Hopefully, if she is in such a situation the help she needs will come her way. I hope you have an easy time integrating into your new job!
ReplyDeleteThank you Kate. I hope she gets out of that situation safely.I am trying my best to get along with everyone.
ReplyDeleteHi Ingrid, I see you haven't posted anything new. How has your job been going?
DeleteThose situations just burn me up. I hope everything is resolved in a decent way.
ReplyDeleteIngrid, I think if you had just a little more time with her she would've opened up to you about what's going on in her personal life. You could've been the person she trust enought to possibly seek help and guidance. It's not too late see if you guys can exchange cell numbers/email and try to continue to reach out to her. To be her friend, I think she needs someone right now in her life that isn't going to judge but just listen.
ReplyDeleteI hope she gets the help she needs. Abuse victims often blame themselves so they shell up when others try to help.
ReplyDeleteObviously this girl's situation is very sad and hopefully everything works out okay.
ReplyDeleteOn another note, I really like how you started the story "She came to the office with a black eye..." because it keeps her anonymous yet is very powerful.
I am responding to the initial blog: Think about not conforming to American culture or Salvadorian culture. Instead, form your own culture, and if either aspects of American or Salvadorian life are included or excluded from your new culture, well then so be it.
ReplyDeleteI wish her the best.
ReplyDeleteHopefully this girl gets the help she needs.
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